Positive approach of mind; makes one win half of the battle in life;
and rest half battle is won by dedicated hard work

My dear Ezine readers, in this article, I would bring out a few important tips for my teenagers who are under going sever Stress of Exam-o-Mania (SEM). As I have still not recovered from a few bad news of previous year s suicide of my beloved teenagers, I hope teenagers would paste these tips in their bed rooms to avoid stress and get in to depression.

Though I have been very effectively counseling and advising teenagers with out financial effect, today, I will give a few important tips to prevent teenager s suicide near

examinations. I would cover pre-examination, during examinations and after examination tips with ample thought as to how to relieve pressure on teenager s mind. As I believe that only stress on every teenager is to perform in categories of one; well, two; better and three; exceedingly well. Why I categorized in to three distinct classes because no student wants to fail. The stress level in category three is at peak during examinations.

Category one students do fairly well without stress, category two students perform well but remain under medium level of stress but category three students are sensitive to take wrong step at minor presumptions. I, therefore, would suggest parents to allow their children to remain in category one and

two only. Over or highly ambitious parents often make their teens suffer under third category.

Firstly, all you would agree with me that most of the teenagers undergo severe
SEM excitement near board examinations of tenth and twelfth standards in India and undergraduate or graduate levels entrance tests in the world. While interacting with teenagers, I noticed that most of them prepare very well and they also know subject in depth but they still exhibit fear of unknown. This is what needs to be curbed. Pre-Examination Stresses Symptom (PESS), by and large, put teenagers under severe Mental Disorder (MD). As, we know that child learn better while playing, therefore, educate your child through Learn in Playing (LIP) method. In this

method, display and exhibit various history, geography, physics and other subject s related diagrams/charts in your house and play to develop competitive sprit and interest to learn. Parents have to play a vital role in developing and maintaining high confidence level amongst their teenagers.

Nevertheless, to overcome the PESS, I suggest:

One; Parents to interact daily with teenagers;
Two; conduct simple knowledge tests on my Learn in Playing (LIP) method;
Three; continue to educate child by conducting mock tests to make him/her believe that he/she is well prepared;
Four; develop faith in your teen to accept any result;
Five; let you child conduct study in tension free environment at home;
Six; if possible make

child leave extra coaching and tuition after gaining confidence in the subject;
Seven; assist your child in preparing Pre-Examination Preparation Chart (PEPC) to facilitate his/her subject wise studies;
Eight; parents to pay attention to your teenagers study hours so that a child gets minimum six hours of calm sleep.
Ninth; Parents to make sure child is provided conducive environment at home to study without disturbance:
Tenth; last but most important is that develop total faith in your child gaining his confidence in ensuring that your ambition is not a key to his/her hard work
confidence in your child that he knows everything;

Secondly, I would touch up on during a few cases of stresses

during examinations and bring out a few remedial measures to reduce teenagers stress.

One; teenagers should always enter in an examination hall thinking that he knows everything thus generating positive energy aura around you.
Two; on entering examination hall, sit close your eyes for a while and relax mentally to recapture the subject issues;
Three; when paper is handed over, Take the paper, just relax and read slowly making sure that you do not miss out any thing.
Four; try to set priority of replying question paper while making first scanner reading. To solve the paper follow the order of Know, Partially know or Ignorant (KPI) rule.
Five; while scanning a paper make your

time appreciation also as to how much each question should be given. Never devote more time for a question which has fewer marks. Remember, that every question has a fix time. If you can not solve a question in time, do not make it prestige issue; rather leave it; and solve the next question, and return at the end if time permits.
Six; never analyze a question paper with a mind set of as to how much you do not know; but look on papers as to how much you know? This will change your negative energy thoughts into positive approach, thus, making him more confidents in attempting the paper with a positive mind set as rule one does.
Seven; first read those questions which you fully know, than attempt such questions which you partially know; and you can do nothing about those questions which you do not know, therefore, do not get worried about such question first.
Eight; do not look towards your colleagues, sitting next with a view as to much he/she is writing but assess your own efforts as to how correctly you are solving;
Ninth; after solving one set of questions. take a short break, relax and again set rolling to tackle next problems;
Tenth; irrespective of the time left, make sure to tick each question attempted on paper with answer sheet not only to ensure that you have attempted all questions but also to look for any omission and error in solution.

Thirdly; I would discuss with you a few post examination stresses which create
problems for teenager s next paper s preparations. During my survey; I have observed that over 82% students get depressed very soon after attempting a difficult paper and getting out of examinations while reviewing; thus spoiling the next paper as well. I would suggest that:

One; Never compare your paper with colleagues until unless you are very confident of correct answers;
Two; do not waste time while reviewing the attempted paper after getting out of examination hall for difficult questions;
Three; parents also should only check the paper keeping in mind

the effect on preparation of your child s next paper;
Four; even if you have attempted a difficult paper, do not think too much. Try to forget and prepare for next thinking to do well in the paper at hand;
Five; never repeat never call any paper bad. Always say difficult.
Six; never allow your child to go to isolation after a difficult paper;
Seven; make sure your child takes difficult papers like mathematics, chemistry etc with ease and not under stress;
Eight; Develop a high confidence level in your child to attempt and forget to avoid getting bugged by a difficult question paper. I have observed many students getting bogged down and can not get out of a difficult paper s mess thus spoiling their next paper as well.
Ninth; follow my next rule What has been done, cannot be undone .
Tenth; interact with your child after every paper to encourage his preparations for next papers and not to rebuke and scold.

I hope the above tips would help teenagers and adolescence to over come the
EOM stresses and relieve them from parent s constant supervisory effects. Your views are solicited at som_kalpna@yahoo.com

I, S kalpna Sharma am a freelance writer who generally writes on various issues relating human values. This year I have also decided to seek ezinereaders help in making the year Suicide Free Teenagers Year-2007

(SFTY-007). I am likely to generate awareness amongst readers to spread the message to prevent suicide of adolescence boys and girls.